Help your loved one plan for significant days
For people dealing with challenges, the countdown to a meaningful day—like a birthday, holiday, or anniversary of a loved one’s passing—can be stressful. Whether they’re missing someone or dealing with personal or family difficulties, they might not be up for marking the day, or at least not in the usual way. You can relieve some of their stress by making it clear that how they spend a particular occasion is a choice. Your friend or loved one can mark the day the way they want to and not feel constrained by tradition.
Choosing how to spend these significant days takes some planning. But it will give your friend or loved one a sense of control over their life and happiness, which can be very empowering. It also helps set expectations for everyone who may be part of the day and reduces the chance of misunderstandings or hurt feelings.
Try these steps when helping someone you care about as they face a difficult occasion: