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Sheryl Sandberg on how to show up for a loved one in life's hardest moments

In this short clip, Option B founder Sheryl Sandberg shares her experience with grief and the lessons she's learned about how to show up for and support your loved ones when they're going through a hard time. 1) Don't be afraid to be the one who brings it up. 2) Just do something and the more that "something" can be geared toward the specific person the better. Do they love coffee? Bring them Starbucks. Are they stressed about childcare? Take their kids for a day.

[0:00 - 0:51] Sheryl: when I lost my husband many years ago.

So suddenly the support of family and friends was what got me through and there's no one right way to do this. So you have to ask your family and friends how to show up for them. But for me, two things really mattered. One is someone else bringing it up. How are you today? I know you're struggling because you don't want to be that person that's always talking about you lost. But of course it was always on my mind.

So after a week or so it was hard for me to bring up. So when friends would say, I know you're struggling, I'm thinking of you, I'm thinking of Dave my husband I lost. That was so helpful. And the second was just do something. - There's so many friends who said, what can I do? And I had no answer to that question. I mean, what can you do? Bring Dave back? Right, that's not doable. But the ones who just showed up and said, hey, I know I can't fix the situation, but here's dinner or I know I can't fix the situation, but I'm dragging you to Starbucks. Whether or not you want to go, those people made the biggest difference

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