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When a loved one is going through a hard time, it can be challenging to know what to say. To break the ice, try acknowledging your uncertainty: “I don’t know exactly what you need to hear right now, but I wanted to tell you that I care about you so much.”
If you can’t be with your loved one in person, consider sending a heartfelt letter or fun care package. You could also reach out to their local support network and team up—for example, maybe a neighbor can bake their favorite brownies if you share the recipe. Together, you can make your loved one’s holiday more joyous.
Too often, people don’t reach out to someone who’s struggling because they don’t know what to do. But you don’t need to solve all of your loved one’s problems to make a difference. Doing something, even if it feels small, matters.
When people are struggling with grief or other adversity, there is often an initial outpouring of love and support—and then that support gradually fades away. We’ve compiled practical tips to help you show your loved one that you’re committed to being there for them long after the holidays are over.
You can show your loved ones you’re there for them—even if the holidays aren’t totally happy—by sending an #OptionBThere card, developed in partnership with PAPYRUS and Emily McDowell & Friends
"The worst Thanksgiving of my life was the Thanksgiving of 1997. My husband Jay had been diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer eight months earlier."
– Katie, on her nineteenth Christmas since her husband passedRead the story