Caring for yourself
Focus on the Basics: Sleep, Eat, Breathe, Move
During life’s hardest moments, it's critical to focus on the self-care basics: sleeping, eating, breathing, and moving.
During life’s hardest moments, simple things like eating, sleeping, or getting dressed can seem impossibly hard or totally pointless. If that’s where you find yourself right now, you’re not alone.
At the same time, hardship often brings unexpected demands, like managing last-minute travel or making complicated medical decisions. Sometimes, when you most need everything to stop, it can feel impossible to even pause. So you might be pushing yourself to move forward and problem-solve despite feeling exhausted, overwhelmed, and barely able to think straight.
But driving yourself harder won’t change the reality that your brain and body have limits. Research shows that you need to start by prioritizing the self-care basics.
When you’re in the heart of one of life’s hardest moments, treat yourself more gently than usual. This may mean lowering your expectations for what you can accomplish in a day and being intentional about meeting your most basic needs.
Someday, taking care of your basic self-care needs will feel easy again. In the meantime, this is the starting place. Each small act of caring for yourself strengthens you and prepares you for the journey ahead.
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